Betty Friedan (February 4, 1921 – February 4, 2006) was a pioneering American feminist writer, activist, and journalist widely regarded as one of the key figures who sparked the second wave of feminism in the United States.
Born Bettye Naomi Goldstein in Peoria, Illinois, to Jewish immigrant parents, she graduated summa cum laude from Smith College in 1942 with a degree in psychology. After briefly pursuing graduate work at UC Berkeley, she worked as a journalist before marrying Carl Friedan in 1947 (they divorced in 1969) and raising three children, including physicist Daniel Friedan.
Her groundbreaking book, The Feminine Mystique (1963), exposed what she called "the problem that has no name"—the widespread dissatisfaction and unfulfillment felt by many suburban housewives in post-World War II America, despite the era's idealized image of domestic bliss. Drawing from surveys of her Smith classmates and extensive research, the book argued that women needed opportunities for creative work, education, and careers beyond traditional roles to achieve true self-realization. It became a bestseller and is credited with igniting modern feminism by transforming private frustrations into a public call for gender equality.
In 1966, Friedan co-founded the National Organization for Women (NOW)—with Pauli Murray and others—and served as its first president until 1970. NOW fought for equal employment opportunities, including enforcing Title VII of the Civil Rights Act to ban sex discrimination, ending sex-segregated job ads, and advancing women's rights in politics, education, and reproductive freedom. She also helped establish the National Women's Political Caucus and supported abortion rights through early efforts leading to NARAL.
Her later works included The Second Stage (1981), reflecting on the women's movement's evolution, and The Fountain of Age (1993), addressing aging and societal attitudes toward older people. Her memoir, Life So Far, was published in 2000.
Friedan passed away on her 85th birthday in Washington, D.C., from congestive heart failure. Her legacy endures as a catalyst for changing attitudes toward women's roles, helping pave the way for greater gender equality.
A famous quote from her work: “The only way for a woman, as for a man, to find herself, to know herself as a person, is by creative work of her own.”
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Feminine Mystique
The Feminine Mystique (1963) by Betty Friedan is a groundbreaking book that ignited thF second-wave feminist movement in the United States. It critiques the post-World War II American ideal of womanhood, which Friedan termed the "feminine mystique"—the widespread belief that a woman's ultimate fulfillment comes solely from being a housewife, mother, wife, and homemaker, with no need for education, career, or independent identity.
Core Argument and Key Ideas
Friedan opens with what she calls "the problem that has no name": a pervasive, unspoken dissatisfaction and sense of emptiness among many middle-class suburban housewives in the 1950s and early 1960s. Despite material comfort, marriage, children, and the cultural promise of bliss in domesticity, women felt bored, unfulfilled, and trapped—yet society blamed their unhappiness on personal failings rather than systemic issues.
She traces how this mystique emerged and was reinforced after World War II:
Women had taken on jobs during the war but were pushed back into the home when men returned, with the expectation of nurturing roles.
Media, women's magazines (often edited by men), advertisers, and popular culture promoted the "happy housewife heroine" ideal, portraying domestic life as the pinnacle of femininity.
Influential figures like Freud (whose theories Friedan critiques as misapplied to women) and functionalist sociologists reinforced ideas that women's roles should be passive, sexual, and domestic.
Education and psychology sometimes discouraged women from pursuing ambitions, framing career interests as unfeminine or neurotic.
Friedan argues that the feminine mystique denies women their basic human need for growth, achievement, and self-realization—needs that human-potential psychologists (like Abraham Maslow) said apply to everyone. By limiting identity to domesticity, it stunts personal development, leading to unhappiness that affects not just women but their husbands and children (who may grow up with unfulfilled mothers).
She rejects the notion that housework should be treated as a full "career" or that true femininity requires self-sacrifice and passivity. Instead, women need meaningful work, education, and purpose outside the home to achieve full human identity.
Solutions and Conclusion
In the final chapters, Friedan calls for women to reject the mystique and create a new "life plan": finish domestic tasks efficiently, pursue higher education and careers (even alongside family), and redefine femininity to include independence and achievement. She emphasizes that women can have both marriage/motherhood and personal fulfillment without conflict.
The book sold millions of copies and became a catalyst for change, helping launch organizations like NOW and shifting attitudes toward women's rights, education, and equality.
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A famous line from the book captures its essence: “The only way for a woman, as for a man, to find herself, to know herself as a person, is by creative work of her own.”
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